Happily Married..

Being married..

Almost 12 years now..*hopefully getting stronger each and everytime..*

and had been going out with him since 6 years before

Baby steps..if you're looking it from my parents', most of my aunts' and uncles', or my parents in law's point of view..

My respect for all of them..

Have been learning a lot from them..

Still am..

I can't say that I'm not the optimisstic type..

I just think myself as the realistic type..

I don't buy the princess who mets the prince and live happily ever after stuff..

That's kids' dream..

where everything has to have a happy ending..

In real life? You have to work for it..

It needs effort to get happiness..

and, it doesn't always ends happy..

But that's the art of it..

It's impossible to be happy all the time..

It won't be a special feeling anymore then..

Me, myself feel the happiest..after all the ups and downs, all the bumpy paths, rain, wether its a drizzle or storm, that I've got to get through..and it comes to a stop..

doesn't matter if the result is bad or good..

as long as you know that you have done your best,

that you have done everything that you can possibly do..

so, you don't look back in regrets..

that's what matters the most..

That's true happiness..

If it ended well, Thank God..

If it doesn't, Maybe it's not the end yet..continue trying, don't give up..

Just stay in God's path and believe in It..

You've been experiencing that all your life, haven't you?..

Well, don't you expect it to change to a different way when you get married..

Your spouse is one of the first new important aspect in your married life

So, he will also brings all the colors in your life now..bright and not so bright ones..

Not to mention, all the we-thought-small-stuffs that comes along with the fact that you're being married..

I know mine for 7 years, before we got married..

Of course, having to know him for 7 years in advance has it benefits..

For me, it definitely gives a whole lot information about him..attitudes, behaviour, habits..

I had never planned to change those..

as I said it before, it's just information..

IMHO, people can't change, they just compromise, they adapt, they tolerate..

and the older they get, with more experience in their life, they'll get wiser..

and hopefully they're able to compromise more, they're more adaptable, more tolerable..

but never change..

so, the moment I decided that he's the one that I'm going to spend my whole life with..

that's the moment I was willing to accept him, all the good and especially all the bad..

But still, everytime I thought I know everything about him *come on..7 years!!*,

he'll 'surprise' me.. in good ways..and not so good ones

Up until now..

OK.. So, hmm..actually what do you get from being married?

For me.. You'll get someone you can rely on, depend on..

You'll get someone you can share your thoughts to, someone who stands by you, someone who trusts you..

You'll get someone who loves you..

Even though sometime, he doesn't show it..

but you know, just by being there.. being responsible.. spending his whole life with you

and eventually..

You'll get your children..

they're the jewels in your life..

the ones responsible for you not falling apart in life..

the essence of your life..

You'll do everthing for them..

You're estatic when they're happy..

You're devastated when they're sad..

the best thing that ever happened in your life..

the reason that you're here..

So, don't sweat on the small unhappy parts..

concentrate on all the happy stuff..no matter how small it is..

Be greatfull, thankfull for all the simplest joy in life..

You'll live to be the happiest person in life..

A Proud Mom..

Last Sunday, is one of those days that I was really proud of my boys..

My husband always says, that my kids inherit my balance..

which is not a good thing.. Despite of sucking in all that involves balancing..

the simplest thing, that I get embarassed the most is.. my ability in riding a bicycle..

When I was younger, the age when you really wanted and started to learn how to ride a 2 wheeled bike, I wasn't that eager to do it..

I lean on my helping wheels, until it bent..

and when it was already bent, I stopped riding it..

Up until, it were my sisters' time to learn.. I was already in high school *OMG..*

My fear of falling from the bike had gone long time ago..

My embarassement out of doing something stupid

while I was learning doesn't matter at all..

So, those were all out of the way..

But still, that doesn't mean my balance became better..

I ended up, wobbly and couldn't ride slowly..*because it's easier to keep your balance when you're speeding..hihihi*..

and mainly, I couldn't make a turn..*What a disgrace..ck..ck..ck..hahaha*

Well, I thought..I didn't need to ride a bike anyway..

Until it's time my first son's time to learn how to ride a bike..

OK, Ayah..it's your responsibility to teach him!

But, you know dads..their time for the kids is not as much as mommies'..

So, my first kid learned it late as well..

Eventually, in the second grade, he's able to ride it, though he had his bike since he was in the first grade..

But, he's more into his skateboard..

so, I rarely see him ride his bike..

The same thing happened to my second son..

It also took him a year, to have the guts to ride his..

It was just a couple of days ago..*lol*

he's so motivated, because the twins has already able to ride a bike..

Luckily..the twins love to ride their 4 wheels bike since they're in playgroup..

A year later, the helping wheels are all bent..and didn't function.

and by that time, the youngest of them has been able to ride 2 wheeled..*YEAY!!*

the other one is still struggling with 1 bent helping wheel..but he's almost there..

So, well done with the kids..

They just have to smooth it up..

Well, my hubby has been in the biking mood for quite sometime now..

He rides together with his cousin every Saturday..

And they've been pushing me to come along..

No Way!!

And then, my brother in law had this brilliant idea to have his daughter's birthday party at Tony Jack's Thamrin on last Sunday..

But to get there, we had to ride our bikes from Senayan..

because Sunday, in Sudirman is car free day..

Perfect plan..

It's all set up..

with all the uniform t-shirt and buggies for the babies..everything..

Well, not a chance I'm joining that!!

I'm just going to meet them up there..by Trans Jakarta..

The kids were so anxious..

I was worried first, because of my doubt on their ability riding a bike.

and then..their mood along that long way..

to add that condition, we're 10 minutes late.. everyone had started before..

But, nothing's going to put my ass on a bike..

So, I walked behind them..

My husband up front..4 kids..and me, walking..

although, almost on 2/3 way the twins and Raihan lost hope..

and we ended up calling my mother in law's driver to pick us up..

But on the way back from Tony Jack's..

They got really excited, because they're able to start together with the others..

I offered them to ride the Trans Jakarta with me..

but they didn't want to..

They all rode their bike..

Only Tama, lost hope and rode on the back seat of his granny's..

The others, arrived safely..even Rizqi was one of the first to arrived..

For Raihan and Dika, they arrived the latest..

But everyone was very proud of them all..

Great Job Kids!! Proud of You All!!

For me..Off course!! Trans Jakarta..