Being Practical

I'm a very practical person.

The more I think about it, the more I know it's true..

The more I go through obstacles throughout my life, the more I know how practical I am..

And somehow, I ended up..

InsyaAllah,

Spending my whole life with my dear husband, who is very practical as well..

Our practicality just attracts one another, I guess

Hopefully, it means we're meant to be with each other...Amin

I've been dating him for 6 years before we got married..

Through those years, when most of people sometimes want their couple to be more romantic, more sensitive, and all..

I don't feel the need for that..

And he doesn't have a single romantic nor sensitive bone in his body..

And I'm good with that

I'm really comfortable with the way things have been going..

Still am.. and hope will always be..

Sometimes, I even get a bit annoyed when he does something merely romantic..

Now, after being married for more than 12 years..

The practicality really works well in the household..

He really get things done..

We do quite good in sharing errands, sharing on taking care of the kids, sharing on having our each own me time..

And the best thing is, most of the time, I don't have to say a single thing, or at least I don't have to say it to his face..

The most common thing that I'd do is..I mumble by myself about stuffs..

And he knows..he gets the hints..

But we ladies, have always have our sensitive moments, don't we

And it just gets me at the heart..

every time he does or says things..

That, maybe, he doesn't realize at all

That, maybe, he does them just for practicality sake..

But he just did or said the right thing at the right time..

And maybe for others it's nothing..

For me, knowing him as this practical person that he is, means a whole lot..

These are some of my favorites..

Going out with 4 kids, 11-7-5s..takes out all off the energy of my 36 years of mommy age..

I'd be exhausted every time I arrived home..

The minute we entered the house, he'd be taking all the kids upstairs to their room..

And leave me taking my time to relax by myself downstairs..

That means the world to me..

When my kids get sick.

Usually, I'll do all the taking care of them..

Which I don't mind at all..

But, every now and then I have the time between all those taking care off stuffs..

He'll just go over me, says nothing and gives me like a really serious massage from head to toe..

That feels heavenly..

When we go together out on a shopping purpose..

I don't get the time to go to places I really want to..

I've got 4 boys plus one..

So, boys places and shops are the places that we go to..

I really don't mind anyway..

I prefer to do my shopping by myself, alone..

when the kids are at school and my hubby is at the office.

I do it peacefully, without any rush from them..

But every now and then,

I notice he often disappears

Usually when the kids are taking a break at the end of our shopping time, eating donuts, having drinks, or others..

And he'll just show up, carrying a shopping bag, which can be anything..

A dress, shoes, a book,..anything..

And he really knows my taste, besides off his good taste on stuffs as well..

How nice is that..

And every now and then..

He just says the nicest thing..

One time, we were talking about every day stuffs..

Kids, house, friends, work..

We share opinions on everything..

we have good discussions..which means debating on stuff..

Which is fun..

So, one time, at the end of a discussion, I concluded..

Well, maybe it's just not meant to be then..Just accept it..

It was like one out of hundreds of our usual discussion..

But he commented,

How lucky I am to have a wife that's understanding..

Isn't that sweet..

The latest one was this..

It was the twins birthday party..

When it was quiz time, the MC threw a question to the guests..

How much does the twins mommy's weigh..

A very rude question, isn't it..

But every one was having fun with answering silly answers..

When it was time for me to give the right answer, I rejected to answer..

So, the MC went to my husband for the answer..

He answered a silly answer as well,

She only weighs 25 kgs, the rest is inner beauty..

If that's not the sweetest thing a husband can ever say..

Hahahaha..

Love you with all my heart..

Just the way you are..

The Twins on Kartini

Of all the heroine of Indonesia, she's the famous amongst all..

For one, she is the one who made a breakthrough for woman emancipation..

But, most of all, it's due to the things that we do on Kartini's Day..

On the 21st of April, every year

The school make their students to dress up in traditional costumes from all over this diverse country..

Which, for me, is nothing even near to the link of woman emancipation

Not festive enough,

they'll show it off by having a fashion show or fashion parade

Which, for me, I've always done it for my kids all the way..because, that's just the way I do stuffs..

For that reason, has caused 2 out of 4 of my boys have been collecting 3 trophies for those occasions..

That's another thing I feel bad for.. the fact that my boys winning trophies for Kartini's Day..

Isn't it supposed to be a woman thing..

Caused by that, for me, Kartini's Day has been just another costume party

So, it was a huge surprise for me

When the twins got back from kindergarten, on our way home..in the car..

They passionately talked about Kartini:

Bu, did you know..

Back then, the time when Ibu Kartini lived..

Girls are not allowed to go to school..

They're not allowed to go to work either..

Only boys are allowed to do those things..

Girls have to stay home, and take care of the children, the daddy, the house..

They're just allowed to sew, to cook, and other house's stuffs

Catching the moment,

I jumped right away..

Yes, and now because of Ibu Kartini's effort,

girls have the same chance to be as good as boys, even better..

Girls now can go to schools as high as they want to..

Girls now can work at any positions, as anything as they will..

Girls can be doctors, dentist, architects, teachers..like me..

Maybe, lost of interest..

Or tired of school..

But surely, it was one of those smart stuffs that they like to come up with..

and definitely, it's one of those sweet things that they like to think off..

They immediately cut me off..

Bu..imagine, if we lived at the same time when Ibu Kartini lived..

Ibu, you don't have to go to work..

You can stay home the whole day with us..

That'll be cool..

Wow, Dear God..

Maybe for some people, feeling as deep as I felt is such a drama Queen thing

But for me..

I paused, took a good look at them..

my eyes started to get wet, hugged and kissed them..

Love you boys, with all my heart..